There are people who intentionally or unintentionally create chaos and push other people into negative situations. Either way, they cause unnecessary complexity, strife, and worst of all, stress at the workplace.
It is generally easy to identify most of the sources of stress at work. If your start up is working to land a grant that you are working on its right functioning, you’re bound to feel stress. You should know how to manage it. It’s the unexpected sources of stress that come as surprise and harm you the most.
When you deal with difficult people, it causes your brain to have a massive stress response. Whether it’s negativity, cruelty, the victim syndrome, or just plain craziness, difficult people lead your brain into a state loaded with stress and you should avoid it at all costs. Here are some tips that can help you to deal with difficult people.
Complainers and negative people are bad for the overall environment. They keep cribbing about their problems and fail to find solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better. People often end up listening to complainers because they don’t want to be thought of as callous or rude. But you must know and identify the fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting stuck into their spiral of negative emotions.
The best way to avoid this is to set limits and distance yourself whenever it is necessary. Compare it with the situation if the complainer were smoking, you would obviously not sit there all afternoon and inhale the second-hand smoke. You would surely distance yourself . you need to do the same with complainers.
A good idea to set limits is to ask complainers how they intend to fix the problem. They will either quiet down or take the conversation towards a better and productive direction.
Difficult people can drive you crazy with their irrational behavior. Don’t allow yourself to respond to them emotionally and get sucked into the negative mindset. The more irrational and off-base you find someone, the quicker you should remove yourself from their traps. You should not respond to the emotional chaos, focus only on the facts.
Stay Aware Of Your Emotions
You need to be aware to maintain an emotional distance. You can’t stop someone from pushing you to a negative direction till you don’t recognise when it’s happening. You might find yourself to be in situations where you will need to regroup and choose the best way to go forward. This is all right and do not be afraid to buy yourself some time to do so.
You have to establish a boundary, but to do so consciously and proactively. If you let things happen the way are, you end up to be embroiled in difficult conversations. If you learn to set boundaries and take charge of when and where to engage with a difficult person, you can control much of the chaos. The only trick is to stick to the boundaries you have set when the person tries to encroach.
Be Ready To Fight
Smartness is to know how important it is to live to be able to fight another day, especially when you have to fight a toxic individual. In conflict, uncontrolled emotion makes you dig your heels in and it becomes more difficult to fight the battle. In fact your weak emotions can leave you severely damaged. When you read and respond to your emotions in the right way, you’re able to choose your battles wisely and win them.